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Post by northstarmom on Nov 15, 2017 15:31:23 GMT -5
People also change over time and may change in wonderful, interesting ways but those changes may cause them to be no longer compatible with their partner. Over the last decade of my marriage, I got into Buddhism and participating in the performing arts. I also became very social. My husband remained happy not socializing much. He also became so interested in Asian culture that he decided to retire in Hong Kong. We no longer had much in common.
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Post by jim44444 on Nov 15, 2017 16:26:12 GMT -5
He wants to make things up with me now and has offered sex. Part of me is filled with hope and the other part is upset thinking is this what I have to do to get sex from my husband? Get angry, argue and cry because of the times he has let me down in regards to this. Thank you for all the support on here. It makes a huge difference and I had no idea there were so many of us going through the same miserable thing. He "offered" you sex? Is that like "Do you fancy a cup of tea?" If he had even the slightest spark of desire for you he would try to seduce you - not just "offer" sex. He does not want to fuck you. He may or may not be asexual, he may or may not be gay, he may or may not be having an affair but none of that matters. All that matters is that you accept that he does not want to fuck you. When you truly accept that fact then you can make a plan for your future. Maybe you will continue the monogamous roommate status with all it has to offer. Maybe you will find some someone(s) to nuture your physical needs, with or without your H's input. Maybe you will terminate this marriage leaving you and him free to seek/find a fulfilling relationship. The decision is yours and yours alone to chose the path that will provide you a life worth living.
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