It's been two years since my husband left the house (hurray) still not divorced, still trying to pull my life together really, but I'm in a better place.
I had a period of depression as I realised what a shithole toxic relationship I was in and that really the sexlessness was a distraction. I continued with my affair partner for quite a while, including after the start of a new relationship (with knowledge of the new guy I was dating).
I have been in this new relationship for about 5 months and it's really good - with lots and lots of very nice, very hot sex. I'm actually having too much sex right now (probably!). And we just get along so well... we've rushed to this stage sort of, but not rushing cohabitation or anything further. We both have kids around the same age and that also seems to be going really well.
Is it really opposite land? Well, I dunno. But I'm so much happier and hopeful now.
Post by worksforme2 on Oct 2, 2017 11:10:54 GMT -5
I remember you from EP. Thanks for the update. Opposite land can mean a lot of different things. Although I also have a partner that seems to enjoy sex as much or more than me it really isn't all sex all the time between us. Sometimes it is just finding a program on TV that we both enjoy and we can schedule some closeness and some bonding around that. Back in the EP days I tried for a while to talk my X into being OK with me having a FWB. She wouldn't go for it. If she had I might still be married. Like you I am much happier and not nearly so stressed now. And I am back to riding a Harley after years of watching others ride by. I hope things and life continue to go well for you.