Virgin at 43 story Sept 9, 2017 12:11:22 GMT -5 via mobile
Post by shep40 on Sept 9, 2017 12:11:22 GMT -5
Your husband is not normal. He is either asexual or getting his gratification another way such as kids. (!), porno, men or hookers. he has a problem! And, your reaction was normal to clench involuntarily your vaginal muscles when he'd done nothing to sexually excite you. Sex would have been very painful for you.
The fact that you had Ivf despite presumably having no exams to document infertility may be what you need so you are able to get an annulment. Without the ivf it's possible neither your clergy nor a judge would believe you have grounds for an annulment.
Your husband is not a nice person. He had deprived you deliberately of what he vowed to provide when he married you. Letting you choose films does not make up for that. Meanwhile, because you have remained married to him, he has been able to masquerade as a normal, sexually healthy, fertile man. You have unfairly paid the price for that.
I strongly suggest that you find out your options by talking to a lawyer and if you are Christian to clergy. Do not tell your husband. His nice guy facade is likely to quickly crumble if he realizes the truth is going to be revealed about his lack of manhood. That could put you in danger.
And do not tell your husband about your affair. He may use that info to lie and tell others you are lying about his not engaging in sex with you.
Wow 3-4 times a day? I didnt know that was possible even. I think I would love that intimacy anytime I can get it too Thank you for telling me as it is. I truly appreciate the support.