Re-marriage has been a blessing in my life! I would not be able to fully appreciate the man or partner my husband is without having first experienced the pain and disappointment of a bad husband and dysfunctional marriage. I would also not be able to appreciate the depth of how fulfilling marriage can be without experiencing the joys and sorrows of singledom.
One of the most important lessons I learned is that my happiness does not depend on my marital status. I find happiness in my marriage, but I first needed to find happiness within myself! Whether I am a single or married woman, the essence of who I am will always remain firmly attached to who I am as a person
I like it, too, and those thoughts resonate with me deeply. I say it a lot, because it's true --- happiness can not be placed in a relationship status or another person, if we do that, we are making a huge mistake for ourselves. Happiness is a personal quest, regardless of who we share life with.
Does what I could gain by getting married again outweigh the benefits of my independence? For me, I wouldn’t marry again if it meant sacrificing any of the strength, freedom or self-respect I gained for myself.
Am I prepared to make this marriage work, when my last one failed? I discovered that it’s imperative to be able to answer this question with a big “Yes!”
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown