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Post by DryCreek on Aug 31, 2017 20:17:54 GMT -5
McRoomMate, hopefully not the same gal who was going psycho...
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Post by McRoomMate on Sept 2, 2017 5:23:47 GMT -5
McRoomMate , hopefully not the same gal who was going psycho... DryCreek Yes. Since your little one line comment I spent about 10 to 15 hours studying "Borderline Personality Disorder". Here is my favorite lecture to date so far: I think your little one line post might have saved me from disaster. Lord help us.
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Post by petrushka on Sept 2, 2017 7:41:41 GMT -5
McRoomMate , hopefully not the same gal who was going psycho... DryCreek Yes. Since your little one line comment I spent about 10 to 15 hours studying "Borderline Personality Disorder". Here is my favorite lecture to date so far: I think your little one line post might have saved me from disaster. Lord help us. Why the hell does that guy need 3-4 minutes at the beginning of the video telling people with personality disorders to fuck off and not comment? I mean, seriously? What he explains about BPD is pretty much bang on the button, I have no issues with that at all. But again, WHY is he always talking about 'her' and 'she'? Yes, as far as I now, more women than men suffer from it, but it's not like BPD was a one-gender affliction like haemophilia. Somehow I get the feeling the chap doesn't just have a chip on his shoulder, he carries a whole joinery shop around with him. I find him creepy. A feeling reinforced by his not giving his name, nor his credentials. Why ever not? Nevertheless, when he is on topic, he is on topic, and it's pretty much what I know and what I, and one friend of mine, have experienced. (my personal experience with a BPD woman lasted 3 months, 11 weeks of which consisted of me trying to get her out of my house).
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Post by McRoomMate on Sept 2, 2017 15:27:17 GMT -5
DryCreek Yes. Since your little one line comment I spent about 10 to 15 hours studying "Borderline Personality Disorder". Here is my favorite lecture to date so far: I think your little one line post might have saved me from disaster. Lord help us. Why the hell does that guy need 3-4 minutes at the beginning of the video telling people with personality disorders to fuck off and not comment? I mean, seriously? What he explains about BPD is pretty much bang on the button, I have no issues with that at all. But again, WHY is he always talking about 'her' and 'she'? Yes, as far as I now, more women than men suffer from it, but it's not like BPD was a one-gender affliction like haemophilia. Somehow I get the feeling the chap doesn't just have a chip on his shoulder, he carries a whole joinery shop around with him. I find him creepy. A feeling reinforced by his not giving his name, nor his credentials. Why ever not? Nevertheless, when he is on topic, he is on topic, and it's pretty much what I know and what I, and one friend of mine, have experienced. (my personal experience with a BPD woman lasted 3 months, 11 weeks of which consisted of me trying to get her out of my house). Yes, she wanted to move it at light speed. What ended up being a cycle was she would move in and then I would tell her to leave or I would leave because she was in one of her anger rages and would yell and throw things and I was nervous to turn my back on her. The relationship basically ended because I was not ready to have her move in again - she lives about 300 miles away now - and she gave me an ultimatum (my psychiatrist friend called it "emotional blackmail").
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 3, 2017 0:21:00 GMT -5
I like the written goodbye. I need to do this exercise. I definitely think it will benefit me. Thanks for sharing your personal version, along with the original!
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 3, 2017 1:02:47 GMT -5
I like the written goodbye. I need to do this exercise. I definitely think it will benefit me. Thanks for sharing your personal version, along with the original! Awe.... Thank You! I hope it will benefit you. You are already such a marvelous writer, and thinker!! One thing I discovered was that the gains seemed to outweigh, and outnumber the losses. Any time I re-read my post, more things pop into my head, especially the toxic treatment that I will no longer be tolerating, my kids won't have near as much of that either. I think when those days come, when I feel lonely, re-reading this will help me to understand that things are better, and that I did not make a selfish decision. That my grief will be, and is, going away.
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