Post by GeekGoddess on Aug 17, 2017 6:02:32 GMT -5
I like this image so much because it helped me understand that sometimes what I criticized in myself as "selfish" was not. Taking care of myself- licking my paws to bathe like a cat, or taking time alone to read or spends away from my spouse with supportive friends- that is not actually selfish. A spouse who thinks it is selfish does not respect my needs. (Well - that is the whole premise of an SM, isn't it? No respect of my need for intimacy with sex.) Mpb- I am so glad you went to the gathering and SO glad that you've seen how supportive your group of friends really is. This is a very happy post, as I read it.
I seem to have this problem, and I would love it if I knew why.
My ex tired of me after we'd been together about 6 years. He started staying out super late at night, drinking, smoking pot, and withholding sex.
My current husband I guess decided he was kind of done with me once I got pregnant - though we started having issues at about 3 years into our relationship (I didn't respond as strongly to a world event as he would have liked).
My friends do this too. They are all about hanging out and whatnot, then, after a few years, it's like they have no use for me anymore (the exceptions being my few closest friends).
Any ideas? I don't ignore people. I respond quickly to texts, etc (maybe that's the problem?), and I will drop anything to be there for someone.
Maybe I come on too strong? Or they decide I'm too quirky?
One of the things my husband is always telling me is that I come across as "cold" and somewhat "calculating". Also self-absorbed.
Just wondering if anyone knows what I'm talking a lot or can shed a light.
I have about the same problem. Don't know of any advice to give, but at least you can know you are not the only one.
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