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Post by shamwow on Jul 28, 2017 9:09:46 GMT -5
Since the divorce, I've actually only physically seen my ex-wife twice, and the first was literally to sign a check in a hurry and she had to go.
Yesterday, we were at the eye doctor for our daughter. My daughter had forgotten her glasses in my ex's car, and my ex brought them to the eye doctor. Neither of us wear our wedding rings anymore, but my ex was wearing a ring on that finger. It was gold with a kind of green stone in it, so not any kind of diamond.
I was just curious to see if that was normal behavior? Perhaps it is a way to keep guys from hitting on her? Perhaps she is just used to a ring on that finger? Maybe she doesn't want people asking about her marital status.
It doesn't bother me or anything like that. I just thought it was weird.
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Post by thefullmoon on Jul 28, 2017 9:38:09 GMT -5
Maybe...she just likes rings?
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Post by WindSister on Jul 28, 2017 9:42:46 GMT -5
Maybe she is marrying herself? I heard that's an actual thing now. Sex wouldn't be an issue, then, at least! Who knows -- other rings are allowed on that finger, I suppose, but then one assumes that person is married, usually.
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 28, 2017 9:48:37 GMT -5
shamwowI suspect everything you listed. Was the ring she was wearing a family aireloom?
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 28, 2017 9:55:44 GMT -5
I don't wear a ring on that finger but I missed not having a ring on my hand so in March I played hookie and went to the jewelry store and treated myself to a new ring on each hand but not the marriage ring finger.
I think she is just used to a ring on that finger.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 28, 2017 10:08:08 GMT -5
Maybe...she just likes rings? Perhaps, but she has never worn a ring other than our wedding band during our 20 year marriage. I think she may have worn a ring from her school when we were first dating, but that was over 20 years ago and can't really remember.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 28, 2017 10:11:00 GMT -5
Maybe she is marrying herself? I heard that's an actual thing now. Sex wouldn't be an issue, then, at least! Who knows -- other rings are allowed on that finger, I suppose, but then one assumes that person is married, usually. I guess that was my question. I'm a guy, and not really into rings in general. I don't know if there is some kind of etiquette for wearing rings on that finger. It sounds as though there isn't any kind of "jewelry protocol". I honestly didn't know if there was or not. Many mysteries of fashion and the protocol surrounding such are a mystery to me. But it wasn't bugging me or anything. I was just curious.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 28, 2017 10:12:01 GMT -5
shamwow I suspect everything you listed. Was the ring she was wearing a family aireloom? I really didn't look at it too closely, but don't recognize her wearing it before. She really wasn't a ring person.
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 28, 2017 10:18:14 GMT -5
shamwow I suspect everything you listed. Was the ring she was wearing a family aireloom? I really didn't look at it too closely, but don't recognize her wearing it before. She really wasn't a ring person. I asked because Emeralds were use in engagement rings a long time ago. The W has her great grandmother's ring that she sometimes times wears on her right hand. It could be your ex is wearing a family wedding ring because she doesn't feel right not wearing a ring. It is also a ring on her ring finger so guys will think she is married and not hot in her.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Jul 28, 2017 10:27:54 GMT -5
IMO totally normal. I missed the ring. I still had, but I wasn't going to wear THAT one. For Valentines I bought myself a little silver ring of hearts. It was probably under $30 bucks but that was more than had been spent ON ME for that holiday in years & years. So, I saw the Ex & he really focused in on - what's that ring? I told him I got it for myself to cover the naked feeling on the finger. I do just like rings though I keep them in a jewelry box more than I wear them. My little hearts tarnished & they were pointy too. So I quit that ring after awhile. I had naked hands for months but it didn't bother me. I recently went to the hippy rock & gem store & I bought 2 other rings. Hematite is on my right index & a yin yang one on my left middle. I appreciated the added bonus of wearing a "false" wedding ring. It simply prevented certain conversations unless *I* chose to start them. I think it's normal to have an "adjustment period" ring for yourself.
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 28, 2017 10:36:53 GMT -5
I was just curious to see if that was normal behavior? Perhaps it is a way to keep guys from hitting on her? Perhaps she is just used to a ring on that finger? Maybe she doesn't want people asking about her marital status. The simple answer... to keep people from asking. It probably distracts from the noticeable tan line and groove of a missing band on a newly-divorced hand. It's like a beacon. ;-) If it ain't that, then maybe she's not quite ready to admit the divorce to herself. In general, women seem to overtly avoid a ring on that finger unless they want to appear married. (I was going to say "unavailable", but that isn't really synonymous these days.)
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Post by shamwow on Jul 28, 2017 10:48:26 GMT -5
I was just curious to see if that was normal behavior? Perhaps it is a way to keep guys from hitting on her? Perhaps she is just used to a ring on that finger? Maybe she doesn't want people asking about her marital status. The simple answer... to keep people from asking. It probably distracts from the noticeable tan line and groove of a missing band on a newly-divorced hand. It's like a beacon. ;-) If it ain't that, then maybe she's not quite ready to admit the divorce to herself. In general, women seem to overtly avoid a ring on that finger unless they want to appear married. (I was going to say "unavailable", but that isn't really synonymous these days.) DC! Nice to see the face!
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Post by shamwow on Jul 28, 2017 10:48:50 GMT -5
Maybe she is marrying herself? I heard that's an actual thing now. Sex wouldn't be an issue, then, at least! Who knows -- other rings are allowed on that finger, I suppose, but then one assumes that person is married, usually. And nice to see your face as well!
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 28, 2017 15:06:13 GMT -5
A woman's wearing a diamond on her left fourth finger typically means she is engaged.
Her wearing another type of ring on that finger probably means she likes rings.
Why are you so interested in your ex's motivations?
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jul 29, 2017 1:35:21 GMT -5
I wouldn't read anything into it. Wasted brain space. I'm currently sporting this little beauty on my wedding finger. The finger has been naked since I removed the ring a good while back. My old friend took me for a jaunt around his favourite charity shops in a very posh village last weekend. We spent so little money and got a few really nice things each. It was a lovely afternoon, I never treat myself to anything. While I was in he changing room he flounced back the curtain (he's gay) and presented me with this ring... he said he couldn't not get it for me he thought it was perfect. Unfortunately the only finger it comfortably fits is the wedding finger. Oh well. I love it so I'm wearing it. It doesn't look anything like engagey or weddingy so I don't feel weird. I'll wear it until it turns my finger green (there's nothing precious in this metal ha ha).
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