@itjustus I think with a slight modification it would be even more effective.
Oh, by the way, I'm at work and I'm freaken horny. I want to feel your soft lips kiss and sliding along my shaft again and, my tongue wants to part your lips and taste you. How about I come over tight, See you soon! 😉 Love ya, Mr. Dipshit
Now there you go, hopingforachange! Unlike our buddy, Mr. Dipshit, you've got it down! Expressive, but to the point, and guaranteed to cause eternal feminine dampness! You even throw in the promise of an evening of reprocity! Smooth....very smooth!
So I met this man in May he's 50, educated. He is a nice man and a responsible person. We had sex it was good not great, he thinks it's amazing. The entire month of June I blew him off. I did not see him. Ignored texts. I told him I do not feel a romantic connection. He was persistent and it turned me on so I agreed to go out with him again last Sunday. We had a nice evening - better than good sex and then to dinner.
So today I get a text from him and I was annoyed because it went straight to sex and you all know that bballgirl is no prude but at least ask me how I am first. The old passive me would have not said anything even if I let it fizzle out but I said screw that so this was the text I sent him:
"Hey I've gotta tell you "Hi I'm at work I need a BJ " Does not turn me on. We are Middle Aged and How are you? How is your day? Goes a lot further to start a conversation. Our minds are our biggest sex organs and we are both intelligent people. This is the third time you have texted to me like this. It makes me feel cheap and dirty and not sure we are a match I understand you may be just trying to be funny or flirty but if I don't say anything then shame on me "
He apologized and thanked me for saying something.
So Go Me! Sticking up for myself and being assertive. I'm not ready to cut bait on this one yet but I do see a shelf life and I have a date with a new guy on Friday night that I'm looking forward to.
I can see how that would have been a big turn off.
I never feel comfortable just sending a message that is aggressive and sexual. I want that type of conversation to be mutual.
Last year I got to really learn how wonderful it is to use your brain and imagination. A few simple words from someone you care deeply about and 'wow'. It's amazing how turned on one can get.