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Post by bballgirl on Jul 13, 2017 8:12:35 GMT -5
Put the phone away and just fuck. LMAO I agree with everything you wrote this man does not have much game. This will fizzle out.
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jul 13, 2017 8:13:10 GMT -5
I am inpressed and most inspired by your ability to clearly and honestly communicate your needs, and maybe more importantly what you won't tolerate. Excellent! Thank you Well I will own it that I did not do that effectively in my marriage. That was the mistake on my part to put up with his bullshit but I will not ever do that again. Fuck me or leave me forever lol Yes. Life is too short to put up with another person's unreasonable demands. Never again.
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Post by nancyb on Jul 13, 2017 8:17:00 GMT -5
Put the phone away and just fuck. LMAO I agree with everything you wrote this man does not have much game. This will fizzle out. *Giving BBgirl a high 5*
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 13, 2017 8:18:16 GMT -5
I agree with everything you wrote this man does not have much game. This will fizzle out. *Giving BBgirl a high 5* Thanks honey Hugs xoxo
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 13, 2017 8:34:31 GMT -5
Thank you Well I will own it that I did not do that effectively in my marriage. That was the mistake on my part to put up with his bullshit but I will not ever do that again. Fuck me or leave me forever lol Yes. Life is too short to put up with another person's unreasonable demands. Never again. I just read something and this part resonated with me and related, I think I will also create it's own thread with it. " Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve. As you grow wiser you will realize that how you feel about someone has nothing to do with how they treat you. Sometimes you have to teach people how to treat you when you are not getting treated properly. Stop letting people dictate to you what they think you deserve. Stop being so passive with people who are openly disrespecting you like you aren't even around. If your happiness mattered, they would have handled the relationship a lot better".
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Post by WindSister on Jul 13, 2017 8:35:35 GMT -5
Bballgirl, you will THRIVE in a relationship. It is so much better when communication is direct and honest. You are good at this. Time and place for all things. I would feel pretty cheap, too, in that circumstance.
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 13, 2017 9:16:37 GMT -5
Bballgirl, you will THRIVE in a relationship. It is so much better when communication is direct and honest. You are good at this. Time and place for all things. I would feel pretty cheap, too, in that circumstance. I know I will if I meet the right man. I was a good wife, he was happy, but I wasn't and I have learned and acquired the skills that I need to be even better for when my Perverted Prince Charming comes along. And if he doesn't I'm perfectly happy with my life as is.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2017 17:11:34 GMT -5
bballgirl, thanks for posting this story. I have now dated a couple of guys who so blatantly sexual that it turned me off. At first I was worried that something was wrong with me: did the years of SM turn me into a prude? Or, what might be more likely - after years with a man who never wanted sex, I now need to re-learn how to deal with more normal men? Well, I don't think I'm a prude - I'm just not all-sex-all-the-time. And when I was younger, I met a lot of men who basically only wanted sex. And I'm out of practice with dealing with that kind of man. Sometimes I feel like Goldilocks. This man is too pervy. This other man isn't pervy enough. I'm still looking for the one who is "just right"!
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 14, 2017 17:19:46 GMT -5
bballgirl, thanks for posting this story. I have now dated a couple of guys who so blatantly sexual that it turned me off. At first I was worried that something was wrong with me: did the years of SM turn me into a prude? Or, what might be more likely - after years with a man who never wanted sex, I now need to re-learn how to deal with more normal men? Well, I don't think I'm a prude - I'm just not all-sex-all-the-time. And when I was younger, I met a lot of men who basically only wanted sex. And I'm out of practice with dealing with that kind of man. Sometimes I feel like Goldilocks. This man is too pervy. This other man isn't pervy enough. I'm still looking for the one who is "just right"! I love the Goldilocks comparison! Yeah this particular man is smart but book smart. He clearly is not socially smart or street smart for that matter. Of course these men that I go on a date with do not know that I have a fwb so I wonder if in their mind they don't think that I'm desperate for sex. Whatever assumptions they make that's their problem. Bottom line women want romance, to be courted, act like you want to know us and be around us outside the bedroom and then things will fall right into place in the bedroom. This guy was clueless.
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 14, 2017 17:41:06 GMT -5
bballgirl, thanks for posting this story. I have now dated a couple of guys who so blatantly sexual that it turned me off. At first I was worried that something was wrong with me: did the years of SM turn me into a prude? Or, what might be more likely - after years with a man who never wanted sex, I now need to re-learn how to deal with more normal men? Well, I don't think I'm a prude - I'm just not all-sex-all-the-time. And when I was younger, I met a lot of men who basically only wanted sex. And I'm out of practice with dealing with that kind of man. Sometimes I feel like Goldilocks. This man is too pervy. This other man isn't pervy enough. I'm still looking for the one who is "just right"! We are/were all in marriage were we got the porridge that was to cold. Take your time and you will find the one that is just right for you.
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 14, 2017 20:34:15 GMT -5
bballgirl , thanks for posting this story. I have now dated a couple of guys who so blatantly sexual that it turned me off. At first I was worried that something was wrong with me: did the years of SM turn me into a prude? Or, what might be more likely - after years with a man who never wanted sex, I now need to re-learn how to deal with more normal men? Well, I don't think I'm a prude - I'm just not all-sex-all-the-time. And when I was younger, I met a lot of men who basically only wanted sex. And I'm out of practice with dealing with that kind of man. Sometimes I feel like Goldilocks. This man is too pervy. This other man isn't pervy enough. I'm still looking for the one who is "just right"! The insecurities bred by the years of an SM are not gender specific. I can envision similar conflicts by the men if I project my own in securities upon other men. Am I being too forward or too cautious? What is the proper balance between Neanderthal and Caspar Milquetoast? Should I be ambiguous or blatant when stating my desires? Never worried about that shit as a teenager, was too stupid to realize how dumb I was.
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Post by becca on Jul 14, 2017 21:03:09 GMT -5
Excellent response, bballgirl. You were honest and direct and told him how you roll. You are a woman who knows what you want and also what you don't want. Passive no more! I love it.
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Post by itsjustus on Jul 30, 2017 4:20:53 GMT -5
"Oh, my beautiful,sexy bballgirl . I can not get my thoughts of you out of my head! The way you looked when we were last together, joined as one. Your heavenly, sensuous body. The softness of your skin on mine. Your soft but passionate kisses. The way you expressed all of your desires to me, showed all of yourself to me. The taste of you haunts me still. The curves of your breasts. The feel of your hips in my hands. Your gasps when I finally took you. The way our bodies fit so perfectly together as we made wild, passionate love. Then the soft look in your eyes after we were both sated, breathless, reveling in the after glow of our love making... Oh, by the way, I'm at work and I'm freaken horny. Would you mind swinging by and giving me a fast BJ? I'd appreciate it. See you soon! Love ya, Mr. Dipshit" Better? It's all in the presentation.....Lol!!
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 30, 2017 7:42:54 GMT -5
@itjustus I think with a slight modification it would be even more effective.
Oh, by the way, I'm at work and I'm freaken horny. I want to feel your soft lips kiss and sliding along my shaft again and, my tongue wants to part your lips and taste you. How about I come over tight, See you soon! 😉 Love ya, Mr. Dipshit
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 30, 2017 7:47:00 GMT -5
"Oh, my beautiful,sexy bballgirl . I can not get my thoughts of you out of my head! The way you looked when we were last together, joined as one. Your heavenly, sensuous body. The softness of your skin on mine. Your soft but passionate kisses. The way you expressed all of your desires to me, showed all of yourself to me. The taste of you haunts me still. The curves of your breasts. The feel of your hips in my hands. Your gasps when I finally took you. The way our bodies fit so perfectly together as we made wild, passionate love. Then the soft look in your eyes after we were both sated, breathless, reveling in the after glow of our love making... Oh, by the way, I'm at work and I'm freaken horny. Would you mind swinging by and giving me a fast BJ? I'd appreciate it. See you soon! Love ya, Mr. Dipshit" Better? It's all in the presentation.....Lol!! That's better!! Made me laugh!! Don't forget the "hi how are you?" Lol I hope you and T are doing well.
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