So I met this man in May he's 50, educated. He is a nice man and a responsible person. We had sex it was good not great, he thinks it's amazing. The entire month of June I blew him off. I did not see him. Ignored texts. I told him I do not feel a romantic connection. He was persistent and it turned me on so I agreed to go out with him again last Sunday. We had a nice evening - better than good sex and then to dinner.
So today I get a text from him and I was annoyed because it went straight to sex and you all know that bballgirl is no prude but at least ask me how I am first. The old passive me would have not said anything even if I let it fizzle out but I said screw that so this was the text I sent him:
"Hey I've gotta tell you "Hi I'm at work I need a BJ " Does not turn me on. We are Middle Aged and How are you? How is your day? Goes a lot further to start a conversation. Our minds are our biggest sex organs and we are both intelligent people. This is the third time you have texted to me like this. It makes me feel cheap and dirty and not sure we are a match I understand you may be just trying to be funny or flirty but if I don't say anything then shame on me "
He apologized and thanked me for saying something.
So Go Me! Sticking up for myself and being assertive. I'm not ready to cut bait on this one yet but I do see a shelf life and I have a date with a new guy on Friday night that I'm looking forward to.
Ok, it took me a minute to stop laughing. Apparently, this man thinks he is still in college. But you handled things really well.
You know, there was no sexting when he was in college. Maybe he was in an SM and still trying to figure sexting out?
Let me field this one!
He's been divorced 7 years and had 2 gf's He's just clueless and either doesn't realize what bballgirl is about, is making assumptions, and will probably be texting another woman in hopefully a more respectful way because bballgirl taught him something- Ask how are you? First. What a concept! Clueless lol
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
lonelywifey: Happy belated birthday saarinista! Hope you had a great, albeit sexless, day ;-)
Jun 6, 2018 9:49:31 GMT -5
saarinista: Thanks, guys! I just wanted to make sure someone was listening. I had a nice birthday, though no, I didn't have sex. But I did have a darned good chocolate layer cake (no not the whole thing, just a piece!)which was as good a substitute as there is!
Jun 6, 2018 14:10:25 GMT -5
saarinista: I know, nobody uses the shoutbox much, northstarmom . Dan and I were talking about how to make it more popular, but he's been off the boards lately sooo...oh well.
Jun 6, 2018 14:11:32 GMT -5
shynjdude: May you have sex befo' yo' nex', Saarinista!
Jun 6, 2018 20:04:46 GMT -5
nancyb: RIP Anthony Bourdain
Jun 8, 2018 6:26:23 GMT -5