Just to re-wind a bit Brother TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo . Do you have your appropriate legal advice ? That, is the most harped on subject in here - and for good reason.
Even in a 'no fault' jurisdiction it is very easy to shoot yourself in the foot through ignorance of your rights and obligations. Your preparations need to be meticulous - and even then this is an horrifically difficult thing to do so you want to stack the deck in your favour as far as you can.
The body of your post reads like you are not fully prepared for divorce as an outcome. I'd counsel against having "the talk" / "ultimatum" (call it what you will) at this point.
I would suggest you get your legal counsel....and among the questions, run these two divorce scenarios by them for comment Scenario #1 - the quickest way out. Scenario #2 - your preferred timetable
Then, you can make an informed choice. That choice will include the staying option...(you may end up choosing to shelve the leaving option altogether in light of your legal advice)
TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo- I know I’m late in my response. I’ve been traveling lots for work lately. It’s been a while since I’ve been able to spend time here. I feel for you. I understand what you’re going through and think you’ve received excellent advice already. I want to talk a little bit about loving someone versus being in love with someone. I think there’s a difference. If you’re in love, I’d think your partner would be feeding it with affection, intimacy, and sex. Without that, I believe you fall out of love. But you would continue to love your partner like you would a brother, sister, best friend. After all he/she is the parent of your children. There will always be a bond. I guess what I’m trying to get at is if you are waiting to stop loving your wife before you make a decision to leave, I don’t think it will happen. I struggled with this too for a long time. I love my husband but I’m no longer in love with him- haven’t been for years. That distinction has really helped me move forward. Individual counseling really does help- if you haven’t pursued that, maybe you should try a few sessions before moving forward with any other plans?
misssunnybunny: I'm also very sad to see that andie is gone
Oct 22, 2018 16:25:07 GMT -5
jim44444: hmisssunnybunny not only did andie delete her existence here she also deleted her tumblr account. Maybe her hubby found her online postings.
Oct 22, 2018 19:52:59 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! Hope she is okay...
Oct 22, 2018 20:00:25 GMT -5
solodriver: I'm sad andie is gone too. She reached out to me when I first joined the group at a time when I was really sick, and talked to me everyday until I was well again and shared a lot of her stories with me.
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isthisit: Apologies for being a techno numpty- can anyone help me to send a PM? When I choose the member as a recipient the error message indicating a staff member is required. Eh?
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solodriver: isthisit you cannot send PMs until your membership changes to member
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isthisit: Thanks solodriver and shynjdude for your replies. Is there some info somewhere about these divisions? I have had a mooch around and haven't come across it yet.
Nov 8, 2018 10:22:28 GMT -5
solodriver: I think it is/was under the Welcome tab, but not sure where.
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