Post by greatcoastal on Aug 6, 2017 12:52:15 GMT -5
I read a similar exercise to do for yourself like this one. Write a goodbye letter to what your letting go. It may be your home, your relationship, or a long ago loss. Start with something more superficial, eventually you will grow ready to say good bye to major aspects of your life.
The book I found this in is titled "Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends" by Bruce Fisher, EDD and Robert Alberti. PHD. A book used in divorce recovery. (More than one million copies sold)
I wrote my own letter last week. I titled it "Saying Goodbye What is the Loss and What is the Gain". It was therapeutic. It took me about an hour to come up with 2 pages. The Gain part turned out to be much longer and better.
I also look forward to giving it a season, and writing it again. Some day i'll post it.
Last summer, one Friday evening I googled the phrase 'sexless marriage' for the first time and a whole new world opened up! I read until the early hours of the morning and this was one of the three quotes I copied and pasted to keep. The next morning I went into town and opened a separate bank account - my first step out. Every time I felt myself weakening in my decision to leave, I re-read this piece. Thank you
choosinghappy: Hope you had a great birthday h!
Sept 1, 2018 21:19:34 GMT -5
mrrobot: Hi guys, I don't know if this community is still active - if so, I posted a thread at the forum if anyone could give me some light I'd be really thankful! Cheers
Sept 2, 2018 7:48:17 GMT -5
georgia: Hi...I’ve just joined the group. And I simply need a place to vent and hopefully receive some help dealing with my utterly sexless marriage. After 15 years of marriage our sex life has dwindled to nada, zero, nothing.
Sept 3, 2018 14:48:18 GMT -5
kh: why even marry someone with a high libido if you hate sex
Sept 4, 2018 4:28:42 GMT -5
javba: kh - fast forward 2 kids and 20 years later I have not resolved the problem you're looking at. Now I have cracked 51 yrs, have lesser chances of finding someone, not as market-able. You may want to reconsider "child is 8 mon old" with a 50% divorce rate
Sept 4, 2018 10:07:57 GMT -5
DryCreek: mrrobot, georgia, kh - welcome! I see a couple of you have posted your stories in the forum. I think not a lot of folks use this chat because you can only see it on laptops, not on phones. georgia, please do post your story and vent here. We get it.
Sept 6, 2018 10:29:43 GMT -5