Post by greatcoastal on Aug 6, 2017 12:52:15 GMT -5
I read a similar exercise to do for yourself like this one. Write a goodbye letter to what your letting go. It may be your home, your relationship, or a long ago loss. Start with something more superficial, eventually you will grow ready to say good bye to major aspects of your life.
The book I found this in is titled "Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends" by Bruce Fisher, EDD and Robert Alberti. PHD. A book used in divorce recovery. (More than one million copies sold)
I wrote my own letter last week. I titled it "Saying Goodbye What is the Loss and What is the Gain". It was therapeutic. It took me about an hour to come up with 2 pages. The Gain part turned out to be much longer and better.
I also look forward to giving it a season, and writing it again. Some day i'll post it.
Last summer, one Friday evening I googled the phrase 'sexless marriage' for the first time and a whole new world opened up! I read until the early hours of the morning and this was one of the three quotes I copied and pasted to keep. The next morning I went into town and opened a separate bank account - my first step out. Every time I felt myself weakening in my decision to leave, I re-read this piece. Thank you
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5