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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 29, 2019 7:16:46 GMT -5
"Oh it's just sex". Isn't that the good old standby statement for when you get caught rooting someone other than your spouse ? You act all contrite and say "But honey, it was only sex" It usually doesn't play too well in that scenario either. Marriage and monogamy are not synonymous! ( good luck explaining that to a refuser)
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Post by jessie83 on Mar 29, 2019 19:34:44 GMT -5
Please excuse my ignorance but what is reset sex?
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Post by firefollower on Mar 29, 2019 20:27:07 GMT -5
Please excuse my ignorance but what is reset sex? My understanding is that when refusers sense that you have about had it with the lack of sex...they will relent and give in to you...the strategy is to keep you from hassling them about it and with the hope that they don't have to have sex with you for awhile. This reset starts the clock again from zero days without sex. It also keeps you hanging in there thinking they might change. Maybe some of the other posters might have some better insights.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 29, 2019 21:47:34 GMT -5
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Post by baza on Mar 29, 2019 21:55:28 GMT -5
Please excuse my ignorance but what is reset sex? Re-set sex is when, after a period of you debasing yourself and begging for a root for ages, your spouse bestows a root upon you. And, because it's been so long, you likely think it is the start of a big revival of your relationship. It isn't. It is just a tactic to stop you whining for a while, and peters out pretty quickly. Re-set sex is NOT "because your spouse desires you" Rather it is to keep you hoping, and thus keep you around.
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Post by firefollower on Mar 29, 2019 22:25:52 GMT -5
With my post-SM partner, I once - pre-sex - asked him how quick he could be and I could see the hurt on his face - someone had obvs said something to him before about hurrying up. We hadn't even started yet, but I knew we had to get out of the house (for some reason) and I wanted sex before we left. I explained and now when I ask for a quickie he gets it (and so do I!) Yeah, I have heard that one before..."ok, let's get this over with"...I think I would rather get a root canal....sometimes its worse than just saying "no"
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Post by Handy on Mar 29, 2019 22:39:50 GMT -5
I like quickies mixed in with longer sessions, if the woman enjoys the quickie.
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Post by ignoredesires on Mar 30, 2019 9:18:12 GMT -5
Please excuse my ignorance but what is reset sex? Re-set sex is when, after a period of you debasing yourself and begging for a root for ages, your spouse bestows a root upon you. And, because it's been so long, you likely think it is the start of a big revival of your relationship. It isn't. It is just a tactic to stop you whining for a while, and peters out pretty quickly. Re-set sex is NOT "because your spouse desires you" Rather it is to keep you hoping, and thus keep you around. Exactly, maybe feeling sorry for you like you’re some sexual charity case. So degrading. I used to go for a “happy ending” massage back in the day. Sure it’s degrading that you have to pay someone to touch you. But it’s more degrading having to beg someone who says they love you for intimacy.
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Post by rejected101 on Apr 12, 2019 19:54:41 GMT -5
I’ve got to be honest... maybe this makes me lucky (I don’t feel all that lucky), I don’t think I have reset sex with my wife assuming that reset sex is “I don’t want to do this but it will shut you up”.
My wife enjoys sex. She is a willing participant. She is an excellent and enthusiastic lover. She even initiates the sex. Why the fuck am I even here...
Because she could go 4 months without giving sex a second thought. Then she takes it. Then once she’s had it, she may go one month before...she takes it. Then she may go 2 months before....she takes it. Then she may go 5 months and then take it. Then we might agree to have a child and she moves the goalposts altogether and we have sex 3-4 times per week, week in, week out until there is a little blue line on the test. The rules are simple. We have sex when she pleases. My dick and my feelings are treated like they are owned and there to achieve happiness and fulfilment for her.
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Post by cassiopeia92 on May 13, 2019 10:11:01 GMT -5
The worst for me was just after, many years ago. He had just rubbed me to an orgasm after not touching me for a long time, he said, there that should last you for a few weeks. I cried myself to sleep.
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Post by h on May 13, 2019 11:51:22 GMT -5
The worst for me was just after, many years ago. He had just rubbed me to an orgasm after not touching me for a long time, he said, there that should last you for a few weeks. I cried myself to sleep. That is the cruelest, most callous thing I have heard. I'm so sorry.
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Post by flounder on May 13, 2019 13:46:30 GMT -5
The worst for me was just after, many years ago. He had just rubbed me to an orgasm after not touching me for a long time, he said, there that should last you for a few weeks. I cried myself to sleep. That is the cruelest, most callous thing I have heard. I'm so sorry. I agree. What a prick.
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Post by cassiopeia92 on May 13, 2019 14:32:18 GMT -5
It just hit me that perhaps getting the caverject was a reset tactic and never real. All I did was make a passing comment in reply to his statement that...we are just asexual. I said you might be asexual but I am working on double orgasms, I aint dead from the neck down. Right after that life was suddenly great and he wanted the appointment. Sonofabitch he played me didnt he?
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Post by jim44444 on May 13, 2019 15:26:55 GMT -5
... Right after that life was suddenly great and he wanted the appointment. Sonofabitch he played me didnt he? Yep he did.
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Post by cassiopeia92 on May 13, 2019 15:28:22 GMT -5
Thats why he got angry when I brought up the subject..wow
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