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Post by JMX on May 28, 2017 22:37:00 GMT -5
there is a part of sexuality that is being missed here. Not that it really matters. Many "heterosexual" men want to go suck cock. The dating sites are filled with them. Many guys want to suck cock but still be straight. A tranny is just the thing, a girl with a cock. Many married men go suck cock. Some find trannies, some find men. If a man wants to find sex, it can be much easier with a man then with a woman. not including hookers. But in the end, if he does not want sex with you, that is all that matters. What really does it matter who else he is having sex with, men women, or other. I am curious about when your marriage went sexless, and for what reason... I am pretty sure you are not correct here. Just a guess. Your stories do not line up with others that want sex from their wife. At best, were you just hetero - you could seek out outsourcing with other women. Plenty of women will "suck cock" - they may even (GASP) swallow. You need to be honest with yourself - you are bi or gay. There's no shame in it - just be honest. And it DOES matter. She is his beard. She has the perfect get-out-of-jail free card. FFS - he isn't fucking her because he likes men.
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Post by baza on May 28, 2017 23:23:21 GMT -5
Like most ILIASM stories, this one actually has fuck all to do with what the refusive spouse is doing - or might be doing - *outside* the marriage, but *everything* to do with what they are not doing - or are not capable of doing - *inside* the marriage.
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2017 23:26:30 GMT -5
there is a part of sexuality that is being missed here. Not that it really matters. Many "heterosexual" men want to go suck cock. The dating sites are filled with them. Many guys want to suck cock but still be straight. A tranny is just the thing, a girl with a cock. Many married men go suck cock. Some find trannies, some find men. If a man wants to find sex, it can be much easier with a man then with a woman. not including hookers. But in the end, if he does not want sex with you, that is all that matters. What really does it matter who else he is having sex with, men women, or other. I am curious about when your marriage went sexless, and for what reason... I am pretty sure you are not correct here. Just a guess. Your stories do not line up with others that want sex from their wife. At best, were you just hetero - you could seek out outsourcing with other women. Plenty of women will "suck cock" - they may even (GASP) swallow. You need to be honest with yourself - you are bi or gay. There's no shame in it - just be honest. And it DOES matter. She is his beard. She has the perfect get-out-of-jail free card. FFS - he isn't fucking her because he likes men. What are you talking about? Are you talking about me or him? This is about him..... why do you say "She has the perfect get-out-of-jail free card"? how does that work? Save
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Post by JMX on May 28, 2017 23:30:56 GMT -5
I am pretty sure you are not correct here. Just a guess. Your stories do not line up with others that want sex from their wife. At best, were you just hetero - you could seek out outsourcing with other women. Plenty of women will "suck cock" - they may even (GASP) swallow. You need to be honest with yourself - you are bi or gay. There's no shame in it - just be honest. And it DOES matter. She is his beard. She has the perfect get-out-of-jail free card. FFS - he isn't fucking her because he likes men. What are you talking about? Are you talking about me or him? This is about him..... why do you say "She has the perfect get-out-of-jail free card"? how does that work? SaveUmmm... he is gay. She can get out without guilt. Otherwise, I am talking about you.
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Post by McRoomMate on May 28, 2017 23:41:12 GMT -5
Hmmm..good point though I doubt he will leave, What will people think of him once I tell my side of the story? He wouldn't risk it. Eww, I just had crazy thought that there is a possibility my husband may leave me for another man! ~ Mind blown~ I plan to speak to an attorney. I have a decent job, I will survive but will certainly have to make major lifestyle changes. It just stinks You would no longer be in a prison of a marriage.During my first marriage, I actually would have a recurring dream where I was in a prison and at the end of the dream each time either the prison gates would be opened or a prison guard would ask what I was doing there as I was free to leave any time. When I finally separated and divorced the recurring prison dream stopped. Dream have symbols if we only choose to listen to what our subconscious is trying to tell us.
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2017 23:44:03 GMT -5
What are you talking about? Are you talking about me or him? This is about him..... why do you say "She has the perfect get-out-of-jail free card"? how does that work? SaveUmmm... he is gay. She can get out without guilt. Otherwise, I am talking about you. she can get on without guilt? Really? I cant imagine her not blaming herself for all sorts of things. He does not want sex with her. Does it really matter that he wants men? I think you have no idea about me. The last thing I care about is getting my cock sucked. Or sucking cock, for that matter. Save
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Post by JMX on May 28, 2017 23:45:58 GMT -5
Ummm... he is gay. She can get out without guilt. Otherwise, I am talking about you. she can get on without guilt? Really? I cant imagine her not blaming herself for all sorts of things. He does not want sex with her. Does it really matter that he wants men? I think you have no idea about me. The last thing I care about is getting my cock sucked. Or sucking cock, for that matter. SaveYou have said it freely time and time again? Not sure where I misread?
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Post by JMX on May 28, 2017 23:49:25 GMT -5
@lostsoul -
Title of post: "Same sex encounters to deal with no sex with spouse?"
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2017 23:54:23 GMT -5
@lostsoul - Title of post: "Same sex encounters to deal with no sex with spouse?" I did not say that I had encounters with men........ When I got a profile, I was bombarded by guys seeking sex with other men. Specifically they wanted to give and get blow jobs. Interesting that you got that I did ..... Save
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Post by JMX on May 29, 2017 0:04:44 GMT -5
@lostsoul - Title of post: "Same sex encounters to deal with no sex with spouse?" I did not say that I had encounters with men........ When I got a profile, I was bombarded by guys seeking sex with other men. Specifically they wanted to give and get blow jobs. Interesting that you got that I did ..... SaveSorry. Maybe I am confusing you with someone else? I re-read your post and you are right - you never said that was about you.
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Post by bballgirl on May 29, 2017 0:28:33 GMT -5
I did not say that I had encounters with men........ When I got a profile, I was bombarded by guys seeking sex with other men. Specifically they wanted to give and get blow jobs. Interesting that you got that I did ..... SaveSorry. Maybe I am confusing you with someone else? I re-read your post and you are right - you never said that was about you. Dying laughing! Sorry You know I love you!
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Post by JMX on May 29, 2017 0:42:43 GMT -5
Sorry. Maybe I am confusing you with someone else? I re-read your post and you are right - you never said that was about you. Dying laughing! Sorry You know I love you! I love you more than my luggage. I always admit when I am wrong.
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Post by Apocrypha on May 29, 2017 10:31:29 GMT -5
@lostsoul - Title of post: "Same sex encounters to deal with no sex with spouse?" I did not say that I had encounters with men........ When I got a profile, I was bombarded by guys seeking sex with other men. Specifically they wanted to give and get blow jobs. Interesting that you got that I did ..... Save JMX - I have also received quite a few unsolicited offers from both gay and men who consider themselves straight (as in they are not attracted to men, otherwise, and have no romantic interest in them) for straight to the point "service-oriented" encounters. This, in having a dating profile up, and sometimes a craigslist ad up for a non-gay situation. When I've asked the obvious questions about why they are barking up my tree, they are quite forthcoming an non-defensive about their answers. I have gay and bi male friends and whatever these guys-who-want-to-fellate are seeking, it strikes me as a somewhat different undercurrent. I'd likely put it more in the kink/sub fetish camp than I would in the gay camp, for whatever that means to anyone. And, you are mostly wrong about "lots of women" wanting to have sexual acts with men. I live in a metropolitan city - am not unattractive, nor a bad date. While technically you are correct, it would be more accurate to say the norm is there are lots of women who want to have sex with men, within a fairly elaborate context and under specific terms. This is quite different from these guys - who specifically DON'T require or want the more elaborate social context to winnow out a select winner for their attention.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2017 12:48:42 GMT -5
I'm not defending him. Please understand that. But fear. No I do understand. Thanks for your input. He says he's not gay....he has a reputation to uphold. Im the prop the willing shill. I'm so pissed at myself. I think it's perfectly understandable for you to be anger about this. You were not informed about a basic part of his identity. Even though I know it's not easy for people who are gay/bisexual/trans/etc.....and I understand if they might not tell anybody until they are really sure. Since he married you, and that carries sexual expectations and emotional expectations, the least he could have done was to tell you, in confidence, before things got too serious, that he wasn't really 100% straight - that he was questioning his sexuality. I would not expect anybody to tell the whole world about it. But the person you're entering a committed relationship with? I think you would have the right to know that ahead of time.
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Post by h on May 30, 2017 5:26:05 GMT -5
There are no chicks with dicks, only dudes with boobs. what is your point? SavePoint was: he's gay. Heterosexual went out the window when he started seeing others with the same reproductive system.
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