Damn, that hit home as every word of it applies to me and the last two decades of my life. Jet city, I totally get your reluctance to let go of the ‘forever’ dream, this is also a contributory factor holding me back from instigating change. Even though I know that things won’t change now.
When my wife and I started dating, I would sometimes have this romantic vision of both of us in our 80’s, sitting together on the front porch, happy and content with our lives. Having to slowly give up on those dreams is a crushing feeling. Thinking the woman I love so much might not be there with me at the end makes me very sad. Even now I feel we are becoming more like room mates. Would leaving my wife for 20 possible years of a relationship with sex involved be worth it?am I really that unhappy? God I’m so confused.
It is as well to keep in mind Brother jetcity , that the choice is NOT - "Would leaving my wife for 20 possible years of a relationship with sex involved be worth it?" The case to leave has to stand up all by itself, because beyond that, you are guaranteed precisely nothing.....there might be a further relationship(s) in your future, or there might not. The quality of such a relationship(s) might be great, or maybe not.
If the case to leave dores NOT stand up by itself (that is to say, you seeing dealing with the problems of being a single bloke as preferable to dealing with the problems of being in an ILIASM situation) then it is questionable whether the leaving choice is such a great idea.
Leaving WILL fix the problem of being in an ILIASM deal - that's guaranteed. But with that comes a brand new set of problems you - as a single bloke - have to address.
It really comes down to "which" set of problems you'd sooner have.
handy: Cutiecakes, I see you posted on another forum. How about copying that other post and place it here. It hase some very relevant information and I think this forum will be of more help.
Dec 3, 2018 17:17:52 GMT -5
worksforme2: Watching the funeral....RIP George Herbert Walker Bush
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worksforme2: Man oh man, look at all that snow. Looks like snow cream is going to be on the menu today.
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