Damn, that hit home as every word of it applies to me and the last two decades of my life. Jet city, I totally get your reluctance to let go of the ‘forever’ dream, this is also a contributory factor holding me back from instigating change. Even though I know that things won’t change now.
When my wife and I started dating, I would sometimes have this romantic vision of both of us in our 80’s, sitting together on the front porch, happy and content with our lives. Having to slowly give up on those dreams is a crushing feeling. Thinking the woman I love so much might not be there with me at the end makes me very sad. Even now I feel we are becoming more like room mates. Would leaving my wife for 20 possible years of a relationship with sex involved be worth it?am I really that unhappy? God I’m so confused.
It is as well to keep in mind Brother jetcity , that the choice is NOT - "Would leaving my wife for 20 possible years of a relationship with sex involved be worth it?" The case to leave has to stand up all by itself, because beyond that, you are guaranteed precisely nothing.....there might be a further relationship(s) in your future, or there might not. The quality of such a relationship(s) might be great, or maybe not.
If the case to leave dores NOT stand up by itself (that is to say, you seeing dealing with the problems of being a single bloke as preferable to dealing with the problems of being in an ILIASM situation) then it is questionable whether the leaving choice is such a great idea.
Leaving WILL fix the problem of being in an ILIASM deal - that's guaranteed. But with that comes a brand new set of problems you - as a single bloke - have to address.
It really comes down to "which" set of problems you'd sooner have.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5