She's taken my parents and siblings May 28, 2018 3:46:19 GMT -5 via Tapatalk greatcoastal and Caris like this
Post by elynne on May 28, 2018 3:46:19 GMT -5
You need to let these toxic people go, if you can. They drag you down. It’s incredibly hard to do, but if you don’t, you will be seeking approval from these arsewipes for the rest of your life. Let her have them. They sound like they are made for each other...a bunch of narcissistic manipulators.
Grieve, and live your life. It’s a big loss in one sense, but it’s really the loss of an illusion that you actually had a loving and supportive family, and you never did. Loss of illusion and dreams are incredibly hard to bear, but you will get through it. Stick to your boundaries, but don’t share your boundaries with them. Fu*k them!
Just out of curiosity- how is your custody arrangement set up? I’m assuming you split holidays?
If the grandparents’ motivation is to see the kids as much as possible- use it to your advantage.
Your ex’s holidays you have no control over. Your holidays, on the other hand are completely within your control. Let Grammy and Grampy know in no uncertain terms that you’re happy to spend YOUR Christmas with them IF the ex-wife is not there. If they are unwilling to comply you will be making alternative plans. Take the kids to Disney, plan a trip, go camping, create your own holiday. Show your children a good time, teach them to stand up for themselves by leading by example. If your parents aren’t willing to play by your rules they lose their privilege to see the kids during your time. You have every right - an obligation- to set your boundaries, and to enforce them with consequences. If they can’t play by YOUR rules, they lose.
Just my two cents. Your life, your kids, your rules.