Post by awakeforthedance on May 8, 2017 11:56:50 GMT -5
Referring to the dating rant, I get it - I have been there, done that. It's all part of the process. So I won't lecture, even though I kind of want to. You gotta go through this how you go through it.
I just have to laugh a little, though, because my rant when I was sick and "done" with dating was to NOT meet any more "white collar" guys and especially no city guys. We all want what we want. Just maybe try not to be mad if someone is not who/what you want -- be glad you see it early before you get sucked in. Don't settle for less than what you want but be nice about it. Angry/mean daters are the worse. I am betting you are nice in person, your blog just sounds very angry. (Again, I GET IT -- but looking back, I wonder if I could have had just a little bit more fun instead of getting angry/sad/mad).
I did warn right up front that that blog entry was a temper tantrum, a way of venting. There is no way in hell I would actually use that as a dating profile!
A couple of men who read that blog entry seemed to want to scold me for having preferences. So what if my heart beats faster for snarky, smart balding men who are small-to-medium sized? I should take a tall, not-so-smart guy with long hair - or I risk being alone forever! So what if I'm not really into the guy, and I'm faking it? (sarcasm) As long as the guy gets what he wants, why should it matter what I like?
Then there was one man who seemed to think I would be wonderful - if only I changed my political opinions, my geographic preferences, and my level of spirituality. I had to LOL at that. I would be perfect if only I was someone totally different. I suggested that he could just like me the way I am and not try to change me.
Most of my life, I have been trying to please other people by being "more X" or "less Y." The same people who think I'm too picky if I know what I like!
What would it be like if a man liked me the way I already am, and didn't want me to change? What would it be like if my wants, needs, and preferences actually mattered?
Post by Venus Erotes on May 29, 2017 19:18:47 GMT -5
I received the notifications today you each had a new post!
flashjohn , I thought it looked familiar. smartkat , I've made it half way through - I was driving and could only read when I stopped at the traffic lights! Off to read some more now that I have some time to myself!
I was LITERALLY just writing about this very topic. Great post flashjohn !
In the not so distant past, men wanted to marry virgins - again to insure the offspring was theirs. Somewhere along the line this romantic, convoluted, Hollywood ideal crept up that being a virgin was the best thing a young woman could give to her soon to be betrothed.
I need a drink. I suddenly feel nauseous.
Back to virgins and modern day sexless marriage…
I once pointed out to a man that sexless marriage is all their fault. They wanted to marry virgins, and after they did, they were disappointed in how insecure and inept the women were in the bedroom. Sure they could have the house sparkling and fix a meal for twenty, but she couldn’t give a blow job to save her life. NO TEETH!