Post by indianoutlaw on Apr 27, 2016 8:28:26 GMT -5
I Love You, But You Won't Make Love To Me
Folks are on here a lot asking if their refuser spouses truly love them or not.
I think it varies, honestly, because each case is different. Anyway, sometimes when I'm in a pissed-off mood about my SM (although my spouse says every day that she loves me), in my mind I like to finish that sentence for her. So when he/she says, "I love you," maybe our spouses really mean, "I love you, but......1) I won't have sex with you 2) I don't find you attractive 3) I would never consider having kids with you 4) I can't show you as much affection as I give to the family pet 5) I love you, but I'd rather try to beat this next level of Candy Crush than sit next to you on the couch," etc. These can be serious or funny, truthful or ironic, but if anyone else out there wants to add their own ending to "I love you, but...." feel free to post!
Post by timeforliving2 on Apr 27, 2016 21:41:16 GMT -5
Or how about, "I love you like... 1) a brother, 2) a new pair of shoes, 3)________ "
I adopted this TWIST on the traditional Serenity Prayer: "I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change. I am changing the things I cannot accept." Life goes on. Time marches on. No more status quo. It's time for living.
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mrrobot: Hi guys, I don't know if this community is still active - if so, I posted a thread at the forum if anyone could give me some light I'd be really thankful! Cheers
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kh: why even marry someone with a high libido if you hate sex
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javba: kh - fast forward 2 kids and 20 years later I have not resolved the problem you're looking at. Now I have cracked 51 yrs, have lesser chances of finding someone, not as market-able. You may want to reconsider "child is 8 mon old" with a 50% divorce rate
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