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Post by greatcoastal on Nov 11, 2017 12:32:24 GMT -5
YOU'RE FUCKING FREE? (I didn't know you where charging?----couldn't resist, very bad taste, sorry about that!!) Go ahead with details! Some of us have been cheering you on the whole time, and care about you!!
You still have your job? How's that going for you? Do you have a heavy burden lifted and work seems easier? Hope so!
Special thanks to family (mothers) who are there for us as we encounter speed bumps in the road of life!
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Post by eternaloptimism on Nov 11, 2017 16:46:28 GMT -5
He has that little boy lost charm that some poor “fixer” out there is highly likely to fall for. I hope I’m wrong 😬 Repeat after me... "Not my fucking problem!" Oh, and this is for later: Not my fucking problem Ha... perfect tune!! I’ll have a little daily dose of that lol. Not that I would ever ever ever ever consider that as an option. Holy crap. No. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by eternaloptimism on Nov 11, 2017 16:48:00 GMT -5
Hooray EO!!! So happy for you! Thank you beautiful 😘xxx
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Post by bballgirl on Nov 11, 2017 16:51:44 GMT -5
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Post by eternaloptimism on Nov 11, 2017 16:54:02 GMT -5
eternaloptimismIf you feel like you're going to have a break down, let it happen. Don't think of it as being weak, think of it as honoring your feelings and embrace that your thinking of yourself and not running right back to the messed up situation. I hereby solemnly do promise to break down if I feel that way;) I just truly don’t feel sad. Like, at all! It’s as though life is beginning. I’ve had my lessons, my training, my kicks in the teeth, my punishments, my heart knows what it needs to know. I know me My plan is to grow, to live, to love, to be open to what life has to offer and to be me. To take the lows with the highs and never ever miss an opportunity to learn and grow some more. It’s exciting. I’m optimistic! Xxx
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Post by eternaloptimism on Nov 11, 2017 17:04:03 GMT -5
YOU'RE FUCKING FREE? (I didn't know you where charging?----couldn't resist, very bad taste, sorry about that!!) Go ahead with details! Some of us have been cheering you on the whole time, and care about you!! You still have your job? How's that going for you? Do you have a heavy burden lifted and work seems easier? Hope so! Special thanks to family (mothers) who are there for us as we encounter speed bumps in the road of life! Ha ha... You know I love a little bad taste Mothers. Can’t live with ‘em, would be screwed without ‘em! She’s rabbiting at me know, can’t she see I’m concentrating!! Job going super well. I’m pretty good at it I have to admit. I’ve actually wangled myself a pretty cool opportunity through a course from work... long story but I’m gonna be joining a team of radio presenters at a drag racing place starting next Easter. I’m super excited. Grabbing life by the balls already! I’ll send you all details of the app with the station on if it works out he he.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Nov 11, 2017 17:05:26 GMT -5
Thanks so much B.B. I’m planning to make the most of it! Xxx
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Post by tamara68 on Nov 11, 2017 19:49:16 GMT -5
I am very happy for you eternaloptimism! And looking forward to hear about your new adventures :-D
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Post by lwoetin on Nov 12, 2017 0:06:47 GMT -5
Congratulations, EO. Can't keep a good woman down. Drag racing? Broooooommmm! For two seconds?
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Post by eternaloptimism on Nov 13, 2017 11:32:17 GMT -5
I am very happy for you eternaloptimism! And looking forward to hear about your new adventures :-D Thanks T Had a little adventure weekend before last actually. No strings from my perspective but I think he’s a little bit attached. Eek. He’s also a member of team SM but not as far along the route of self empowerment as some of us here. He’s not a member here btw! I do feel like I’m helping him actually and he’s helping me to be able to be completely honest and open in myself, and it’s also helping me rid myself of some of the stupid hang ups I’ve collected over the years! Xxx
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Post by eternaloptimism on Nov 13, 2017 11:33:47 GMT -5
Congratulations, EO. Can't keep a good woman down. Drag racing? Broooooommmm! For two seconds? Exactamundo!! It’s such a shame that all the anticipation and power only lasts a few seconds isn’t it. A parallel I’m not hoping for in future encounters lol! X
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Post by tamara68 on Nov 13, 2017 13:39:19 GMT -5
I am very happy for you eternaloptimism ! And looking forward to hear about your new adventures :-D Thanks T Had a little adventure weekend before last actually. No strings from my perspective but I think he’s a little bit attached. Eek. He’s also a member of team SM but not as far along the route of self empowerment as some of us here. He’s not a member here btw! I do feel like I’m helping him actually and he’s helping me to be able to be completely honest and open in myself, and it’s also helping me rid myself of some of the stupid hang ups I’ve collected over the years! Xxx That's great EO! And that sounds familiair too, about him getting attached. You can't avoid that when you are awesome ! lol And a good exercise in keep making clear what you want and need and don't fall in a trap again. Cheers to adventures
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 2, 2017 9:34:39 GMT -5
The last month has been probably the most hectic stressful trying time of my life. So far lol!
I think it’s easiest to break it down into a list of good bits and challenging bits.
Good. Left him. Best thing in the world. Best ever month for sales in my job. Yippee. Should mean a decent bonus and pay rise at the end of this month.
Challenging. Living with Mother. Holy hell. A few issues: We have not been allowed the heating on for most of the month even though temperatures have been between -0.5 degrees C (31f) and 8 degrees C (46f)on warmer days. I had a heavy cold a lot of it and my 9yo has been in tears. She said she is toughening us up!!! Had to purchase thermals for the kids to stop them going blue. Even when she does put it on she turns the radiators right down to minimum. Doesn’t matter how many times I ask or turn them up. She turns them down. She unplugs my phone and iPad from charging whenever my back is turned. As I work on the road this is NOT good.
I could understand if she had money issues and I wasn’t paying to be here.
Neither of those things are the case.
I’m actually paying her 50% more than she asked for and she is still penny pinching.
My youngest has had a breakdown this week when he heard his cousin was coming to stay. She has been inappropriately touching him for years it transpires. Mother and my sister always made them have a bath together and this has been going on every time they leave them alone. The kid suffers severe anxiety anyway and we have now been moved up the list to see a counsellor. He had to take time off school and was given a sedative by the pharmacist. Mother refuses to move pictures of the cousin from every fricking room of the house. My child is severely traumatised. It is all out in the open now which has helped him somewhat but my mother is note of a hinderance than a help. There are more minor issues with her that are very unhelpful. Needless to say I totally and completely understand every reason I became the insecure and self doubting people pleaser that led to my 18 year tortuous SM. Thank god I’ve healed so much that I am able to support and coach my kids, especially the little one, through this dark time.
My sister is fully in the picture and is devastated. She believes it to be a boundaries issue with my niece and will be dealing with it however she sees fit.
My son never wants to see the girl again. Fully supported by me. It’s a shame my Mother has zero compassion for him. Self centred describes her quite well.
The upside of how bad it is here is that in just over a week I’ve sorted my mortgage, will, life insurance, viewed a house, put an offer in, had it accepted and am well on my way to becoming an independent homeowner in the very near future.
The ex has finally found himself a job up where he is living on his mother’s couch.
He starts Monday.
The little one desperately wants xmas day with him so I’m doing a 300 mike trip one of the journeys and his uncle or grandad up there will do the other if the ex can sort that out. If not it’ll be more of a new year visit.
The ex can not afford any presents. So that’ll be 100% for me to sort too. They’ll obviously be opening them without me but that’s not going to flip me out. I just want them to be happy. It pisses me off a little bit I certainly won’t be making an issue of it. It’s not in the kids best interests.
I’m trying my best to remain sane through this temporary period of staying with Mother. She really is hard work.
I’m so looking forwards to my house completion.
I’ll not have much to begin with. However, without the ex and with me in control of my own life, things will improve rapidly.
Thanks for the space to vent.
I seriously need it today lol.
EO xxx
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Post by h on Dec 2, 2017 9:47:42 GMT -5
If I were you, I'd take down the cousin pictures and hide them until you move out. Your child's mental health is more important than your mother's feelings. You can tell her where they're stashed after you leave.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 2, 2017 9:52:06 GMT -5
If I were you, I'd take down the cousin pictures and hide them until you move out. Your child's mental health is more important than your mother's feelings. You can tell her where they're stashed after you leave. You are right. Im doing it. Xx
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