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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2016 12:25:36 GMT -5
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 9, 2016 13:07:45 GMT -5
We should all print it, read it often, share the truth with others in need,and use it as we take ground toward finding our joy.
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Post by obobfla on Dec 9, 2016 13:23:59 GMT -5
We should all print it, read it often, share the truth with others in need,and use it as we take ground toward finding our joy. I'd send it to my wife, but she would become dyslexic. "No, it says good sax! We should listen to more music, especially woodwinds."
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Post by beachguy on Dec 9, 2016 14:43:40 GMT -5
OTOH 39% of respondents think the sun rises in the West....
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Post by beachguy on Dec 9, 2016 15:03:04 GMT -5
The more I play with the numbers the more useless that 61% statistic. For example, if 90% of men believe sex is necessary for a good marriage but only 32% of women, then you get your 61%.
Similarly, without regard to gender, if 95% of one partner in each marriage believes satisfying sex is important but only 27% of their partners think a satisfying sex life is important, you got your 61%
If this forum's marriages were surveyed, I suspect about 50% would answer affirmative?
Even worse, some spouses may consider a satisfying sex life the once or twice a year they allow their partners. They might consider that satisfying as long as their partners don't pester them too much for much more (which many of us long timers here stopped doing years or decades ago)
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 9, 2016 20:15:51 GMT -5
The more I play with the numbers the more useless that 61% statistic. For example, if 90% of men believe sex is necessary for a good marriage but only 32% of women, then you get your 61%. Similarly, without regard to gender, if 95% of one partner in each marriage believes satisfying sex is important but only 27% of their partners think a satisfying sex life is important, you got your 61% If this forum's marriages were surveyed, I suspect about 50% would answer affirmative? Even worse, some spouses may consider a satisfying sex life the once or twice a year they allow their partners. They might consider that satisfying as long as their partners don't pester them too much for much more (which many of us long timers here stopped doing years or decades ago) You make an excelent point my friend. However, this article hits close to home for me. Not like so many other advice columns that tell the refused, "you need to meet their needs. You know...take them to dinner, wash dishes, put the kids to bed, cook all the meals, give them money to go shopping, invite there mother to come live with you, pick up all there trash around the house with a smile, invite there family to come live with you for years, buy them more drugs and alcohol, watch them play their computer games, tell them how attractive that extra 100lbs looks on them, tell them your so glad they get all the rest they need from never working,and be understanding of all their problems". Like you said, " a satisfying sex life". According to the refuser? That's what's so great about this sight, where else do you read, "10 times or less per year is a sexless marriage." Instead it goes straight to the heart of the problem. That lack of communication that comes from not having regular, intimate sex. I remember those few vanilla sex episodes in the early stages. Afterwards feeling like I could open up and be myself, because we had shared something so special. Again, the only person on the planet to do that with, your partner in marriage. I did notice how close, percentage wise, the shared responsibilities came. You will hear from a lot of us how un-even THAT playing field gets when dealing with a controller. The article is a guideline of making it work with the next person, in this day and age. Time will tell!
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 10, 2016 9:58:18 GMT -5
Ha. Good luck trying to convince any refuser of this!
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 29, 2017 16:16:23 GMT -5
I don't concern myself with where the sun rises. I'm more of a flat earth aficionado. I think in terms of getting to close to the edge and falling off.
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Post by beachguy on Jan 30, 2017 0:31:25 GMT -5
I don't concern myself with where the sun rises. I'm more of a flat earth aficionado. I think in terms of getting to close to the edge and falling off. I knew that the round Earthers were spouting bs. Glad to see that validated
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