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Post by warmways on Sept 13, 2016 0:07:37 GMT -5
I've been thinking about ways to still feel energized and connected despite being touch starved and I've come up with some things. I'm interested if others have ways in which they can feel connection without outsourcing. Here's my list so far:
--self pleasure --showers, baths --noticing the sun on bare skin --feeling the wind on your skin --shampoo from the hair stylist --acupuncture and sometimes she gives a neck massage --hugging myself sometimes usually when going to bed for the night --putting body lotion on my skin --hug my pillow with another pillow behind me --pet my dog and cats --visualize a wonderful scene with a bright light surrounding my body until I feel the energy (technique from Creative Visualzation) by Shakti Gawain --tense and relax each muscle --pedi/mani
More ideas? I'm sure I'm forgetting so many.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 13, 2016 2:16:12 GMT -5
What a lovely list. Agree with all. Adding yoga would make it even better. I've been back in my yoginess for about the last month. And it does make a difference. It's like totally hugging and loving yourself. Benefits the mind and the body too. Winner X
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2016 4:16:25 GMT -5
You've pretty much got my list. I love the pillow arrangement for sleeping. I recently started using it.
Other self-care things I do:
--savoring a hot coffee or tea (even in summer I love a hot coffee). --Spending time with the friends I can be my whole true self with, who I feel happier after seeing. I have other friends who I care about but who leave me feeling anxious and these days I see them sparingly for the sake of my mental health.
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Post by baza on Sept 13, 2016 4:49:47 GMT -5
Perhaps a career as a masseur beckons Sister warmways.
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Post by becca on Sept 13, 2016 6:08:05 GMT -5
Swimming. The sensation of water against skin.
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 13, 2016 8:07:24 GMT -5
More and more women are taking to the open road(or the congested road)on motorcycles. I had a Harley for decades before I married and after this divorce I decided to take up riding again. It was a good decision and I have made some new connections with others that ride. But what I get the most from the experience is having to have my mind constantly engaged for every second of the experience. You can't daydream or forget where you're at, and I feel so much more energized at the end of a ride because I have to been totally in the game the whole time. There's no time out's when you are sitting atop a moving motorcycle.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 13, 2016 8:47:24 GMT -5
Hear, hear! I love the list. I use self-hugging and also converted back to being a hugger - others I do not know well always get a "Can I hug you?" but many folks love a hug and just won't initiate. At my support group, I don't hug anybody I have a crush on but all others are like family and I get and give a lot of hugs this way. Other massages and/or spa treatments (like body wraps). Pilates along with yoga (my running too) - it is not the same as external touch but I can "feel" my body and just tuning into those sensations, followed by the swimming or hot soak in epsom - that's a good combo. I love the pedicure with extras - a salon here does milk & honey pedis with full massage up to the knees. Other modalities - I love my acupuncturist and my masseuse. I got my chakras cleared the other day by a friend (free, to let her practice her new skill) - that was cool, cooler than I expected. Chiropracter, foot reflexology, Reiki - all good. I used to have an OD doc that did cranio-sacral release - very nice. Any kiddos you can play with? Friends or relatives with toddlers through 10 years old or so - - they'd love to get taken on a picnic or to a playground and tend to hug & be loving? Or - volunteering in a location with autistic kids - many like touch so much that they've developed a weight-vest type of thing to give them a sense of reassurance. And - now that I mentioned that - they used to sell these vests that you would load with weights of different sorts to wear around (like a passive workout?) - IDK where I heard of them, because I know I've never had one. But I wonder if that would help or if it would be futile. I like form fitting clothing now - if I have a short skirt and have to mind the hem a lot - and I run my hands over the legs when I can, just sitting around (if it's not going to distract someone). Love the list!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2016 15:00:33 GMT -5
I've been thinking about ways to still feel energized and connected despite being touch starved and I've come up with some things. I'm interested if others have ways in which they can feel connection without outsourcing. Here's my list so far: --self pleasure --showers, baths --noticing the sun on bare skin --feeling the wind on your skin --shampoo from the hair stylist --acupuncture and sometimes she gives a neck massage --hugging myself sometimes usually when going to bed for the night --putting body lotion on my skin --hug my pillow with another pillow behind me --pet my dog and cats --visualize a wonderful scene with a bright light surrounding my body until I feel the energy (technique from Creative Visualzation) by Shakti Gawain --tense and relax each muscle --pedi/mani More ideas? I'm sure I'm forgetting so many. Get hurt and go to PT.
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 13, 2016 16:19:52 GMT -5
I've been thinking about ways to still feel energized and connected despite being touch starved and I've come up with some things. I'm interested if others have ways in which they can feel connection without outsourcing. Here's my list so far: --self pleasure --showers, baths --noticing the sun on bare skin --feeling the wind on your skin --shampoo from the hair stylist --acupuncture and sometimes she gives a neck massage --hugging myself sometimes usually when going to bed for the night --putting body lotion on my skin --hug my pillow with another pillow behind me --pet my dog and cats --visualize a wonderful scene with a bright light surrounding my body until I feel the energy (technique from Creative Visualzation) by Shakti Gawain --tense and relax each muscle --pedi/mani More ideas? I'm sure I'm forgetting so many. Get hurt and go to PT. Funny Phin!! Made me think - Or don't get hurt and go to the gyno for an annual. Sorry for the bad humor I couldn't resist.
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Post by obobfla on Sept 13, 2016 16:46:38 GMT -5
I guess we men could get a prostate exam
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2016 16:55:56 GMT -5
I guess we men could get a prostate exam If we're really really desperate for touch...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2016 18:44:59 GMT -5
Mammogram?
No, I'm not THAT desperate!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2016 18:49:15 GMT -5
I guess we men could get a prostate exam But then contrary to my other post on this, some men find a prostate massage incredibly stimulating. So whatever. Can you do that to yourself?
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Post by jim44444 on Sept 13, 2016 19:38:09 GMT -5
I guess we men could get a prostate exam But then contrary to my other post on this, some men find a prostate massage incredibly stimulating. So whatever. Can you do that to yourself? Oh hell no! Once a year, pretending to be somewhere else. I will stick to my regularly scheduled massage.
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 13, 2016 20:47:07 GMT -5
I guess we men could get a prostate exam No way dude....My all time worst prostate exam was given to me by a female doctor. She was about 5'6'', 240lbs. and she had a way better mustache than me. She literally picked me up off the floor and I was 1/2 way across the exam table before I got away from her.
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