Wow. The saga seems to never f'ing END with her. Oh my god she has such .... I don't even know. Stamina?
It's more like a revengeful manipulation. It also confirms my decision to release myself from someone who will continue to show no respect, and whose actions show her non stop controlling behavior. Even when it hurts herself.
Another lesson for her to learn or never figure out. While me and the family, get as far away as possible! Quite a balancing act, when you still have to be very aware of not saying derogatory things about "mother" while speaking the truth at the same time.
Talk to your lawyer. She should not be able to close/cancel joint accounts on her own, that doesn't seem right. Good luck, sounds like this one's going to be tricky to leave.
Today is a one year anniversary.... a very strange one at that.
A year ago that I said "I am ending our marriage". Oddly enough ,lately I have discovered all kinds of things. When our joint accounts are down to virtually nothing and my W. continues to draw funds, and their are penalties withdrawn from rental property income, I can just close those joint accounts.
When my 16 yr old is threatened by his mom that he can't have college classes (the same ones she has encouraged him to take for years) because she can't afford insurance, or she can't afford gas, or car repair, etc.... but refuses to tell or show any truth about the costs and the whereabouts of all the money. It's back to my attorney telling her attorney to inform her of her legal responsibilities.
Then, even worse, my son is now devastated that he is going to have to sell his car, fail his junior year, and have to pay thousands more for these classes later when now they are free. All because of my W's responsibility to pay $40 a week for his insurance. I try to calm him and need to talk to the attorney, again!
Her alibi? "I can't afford it". That may fly for my teens but not for me, my attorney, her attorney, and a judge. Sick....isn't it.
She also loves to blame everything on me and the "divorce". She claims the divorce came out of no-where........if it wasn't so sick it would be comical.
Sadly that's what it has taken when dealing with a manipulative controller.
You can believe my teens have learned a lot about their parents in this year.
Post by greatcoastal on Aug 13, 2017 14:33:03 GMT -5
I will also add that this "insurance" fiasco is happening because more and more control is being taken from my W. My teens are questioning so much of what she does, and avoiding her more and more. Instead they come to me. For now I still have to rely on the attorney.
Their is the hope of having control over my own finances, and a decent steady amount of my STBX's fair share of paying for every day, expected expenses of having 9 people live in one family.
greatcoastal , your court date got postponed some 6-8 weeks ago due to the judge having surgery. Surely you've got a new date and the end is near?
Thank you greatly for keeping up with me!!
I spoke with my attorney, she is still waiting for answers from subpoenas. There have been subpoenas in the past. The more dirt that comes up the more facts need to be proven.After telling her my W's refusal to pay our sons auto insurance, my son having to go to the doctor about his stomach pains, the doctor saying it's from stress and anxiety, my other daughter not getting her physical therapy for over a month, blaming it all on me because of the divorce. my attorney is going to put our name on the roster. No more talk about mediation!!!!
She also asks me, and has repeatedly, "do you want full custody of the children?" Like she thinks I could easily attain it.
That's an emotional, difficult, heavy hearted decision to have to make.
Post by greatcoastal on Sept 5, 2017 7:59:52 GMT -5
Today is my 25th wedding anniversary! Yea!! (NOT!)
Looking back on my last 3 or 4 anniversaries, I most likely would have seen my wife have breakfast with her daddy, then out the door to work, directing and controlling the kids with stuff they already know. She would manage to come home late, go to bed early. I would have gotten her some fake card, and left it in her car or under her pillow. That's about it. What else do you do for someone who proudly boasts " I detached myself from you years ago"?
Instead I will run my chores today, like normal, have dinner ready for the teens, and go to my divorce recovery meeting tonight. We are giving each other affirmation compliments tonight!
I'd rather be at my meeting. Like many of you, when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries,.....It's just another day.
How much longer until you are finally out? God, it's been over a year now or something like that, right?
Is Florida that backlogged, or is it just something peculiar about your case?
It's my case. Short answer. My W firing and hiring three different, attorneys, my W's refusal to give on anything during mediation, my attorney believing another mediation would solve things, then came the deposition, my W stalling on answering supbeonas, the judge's surgery, and now finally getting our name put on the roster. So hopefully the court date will be this fall.
On a really weird side note! Tomorrow I will be spending the day with my handyman, putting gutters and extensions on the rental house. We had a heavy 5 inches of rain the other day, and the water flooded the back porch and came into the kitchen. Now here comes Irma and Jose! This is money spent on a house that may no longer be mine? But I have tenants to take care of!
These kind of decisions get more difficult when your going through divorce limbo. My daughter wants to play fall softball. It would be nice to know where I will be living, how far I will need to travel for her daily practices, what my job hours might be, will I be going to school for 8 weeks, how many days will I be with my children, who gets how many cars, etc.... I don't think it's fair to tell her , "no softball". I'm trying to keep things "normal" and take the high road that "we can handle it".